Here is a photo of my nephews and I making lemonade (with one added grapefruit). I thought the photo was fitting for this post as I share how I’ve been making my lemonade for the past 6 or so weeks 🙂
I have made some positive changes to my everyday life that has contributed to my overall wellbeing and mood. I have believed in these methods for some time now but never consistently engaged in them due to my schedule, not being in a positive headspace, or just flat out laziness. As most of you know, I have been spending equal time between Brooklyn and Austin area and I’ve had free time to clear my head to implement these changes. I do not particularly believe that I was “unhealthy” before, but I definitely feel the healthiest I have been in a while.
These are in no order, except I saved the best for last.
Limiting cell phone use- I’m pretty sure I was addicted to my phone. Generally speaking, every time I felt an ounce of boredom I’d reach for my phone and aimlessly scrolled down my Instagram feed. After I was tired of my feed I ventured out onto the Explore page, then back to my feed. Just soaking in content that I found hilarious, inspirational, and entertaining-good or bad. How boring. It just became a habit, there was always something new on there. Eventually this cycle led me to feel a little insecure about how I was living my life…wondering how these people my age were going on all these trips, who was taking their pictures, and just absorbing the drama. Frankly, that is none of my business how people do things. I don’t know their backstory, those young twenty-somethings could’ve been business owners for all I know.
As of a little over a month ago, there was a No Electronic in the Bedroom rule implemented. Before nightly teeth-brushing, the electronics head to the “charging station” in the living room and stay there until the next day. After a few days I realized that I was sleeping better. I’ve been reading consistently, spending more quality time with myself and the boo, and best of all I do not feel like I NEED my phone anymore. The downside is that I am really bad about calling people back. If you call me and I miss it there is a 50% chance I will not call you back unless you are my grandma, mom or sister. Emailing is the best way to contact me…I check it a few times a day!
Gratefulness journal- I started journaling nightly before bed about all of the things that day that I am thankful for. The first 4 or 5 days I used a list format where I just numbered down the page. I switched over to a paragraph and complete sentence format and that has been working better for me, the flow is nicer, less robotic. The gratefulness journal requires me to intentionally reflect on my day in detail. I started this journal because I have been asking for a lot from the universe and from God and I always want to be thankful and humble for what I receive. I have so much to be thankful for, sometimes it is overwhelming and emotional how much I have been blessed in my life. It is truly amazing…I NEVER want to forget that. Ever. I have missed a couple days where I was so sleepy and I genuinely felt bad the next morning that I did not give thanks that day, but after making it up I felt better.
Reading before bed- I’ve always enjoyed reading, it is one of my favorite ways to relax with minimal effort on my end. I was not very intentional about this hobby, I would pretty much only read when I had a good book, then months would go by before reading another one. After journaling I read a chapter or two before bed now. I considered reading first then journaling but sometimes I am too sleepy to do both and journaling take priority over reading. The benefits of reading before bed that I have experienced is an overall state of relaxation and wander. In the past month I’ve read: The Secret, The Biography of Malcom X, The Alchemist, Ready Player One, and Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them. I just started a book the other day about a Voodoo Priestess living in Brooklyn, I’m excited to dig into it!
Eating & drinking water/ larger caloric intake- This may not seem like a big deal to some but this is a HUGE deal to me. My appetite is poor, it has been for as long as I can remember. I don’t try to starve myself, I just don’t have much of an appetite…my stomach doesn’t even growl but I know it is time for food once I get a headache lol. Sometimes I have a lot going on and I honestly forget to eat. I am not a foodie either, I have a simple taste…tacos, burgers, sandwiches, soups and salads. I am not an adventurous eater either although I will usually try new foods at least once before I decide I don’t like it. Anyways, Lately I have been eating with the intent of nurturing my body, gaining energy, and trying to intake many calories. I have been feeling legit hunger since being intentional and now my stomach growls lol. I have been a bit more physically active so that is probably a big contribution. Water on the other hand….ugh. It just tastes like nothing!!! It is a struggle. I am trying though. I just downloaded a water drinking reminder app (Yes, it has gotten to that point). The thing is aggressive and I feel offended when it tries to tell me how to live my life.
Visualization, meditation, & speaking things into existence- You have power to speak things into existence. I am a heavy believer of the law of attraction. I consider myself a positive person but sometimes I can get pretty doubtful. Lately I have been speaking and willing positivity into my life. I declare what I want and I know that I will get it. I don’t worry about the how, that is not my job, that is not trusting the process. The key is believing. Many times a narrative like this goes on in our heads: “If I had more money/space/connections/time/__(fill in the blank)__, I would be able to _________. No! You already have everything in your life that you need to succeed, just have to believe it fully and wholeheartedly. Practicing meditation and positive visualization has contributed to me getting the things I want. Sometimes when I do not get what I ask for, I try to readjust myself and usually I realize that I am not in a place to receive that blessing at that point in time. So I better myself, I work hard, I put myself out there so that I am worthy of the gift. Example. I’ve known for a while that I wanted to model…I am so passionate about making a change, representation, and inclusion. I am now in NYC, following my dreams. God blessed the universe which aligned with what I wanted to do and made a way for me to be here, in this incredible hub of opportunity. The book The Secret really helped my develop this way of thinking and it is working!
That is pretty much it. Let me know if you have any other methods that make you happy. By the way, my contact form is messed up so you can email me directly: Kiara@naturallykiara.com
P.S. I am trying to gain more energy- I always feel sleepy, I went to the doctor in January thinking my iron might be low but I had a full panel blood work up and everything was within normal limits. I am at a loss here. I wake up sleepy and could sleep all day, any day. I do not pig out on junk, I am not pregnant, I sleep well at night, I am not on any medication, I do not currently feel stressed, I drink coffee lol, I tried taking a multi-vitamin and I broke out into a thousand tiny pimples. I am just a sleepy girl in a busy world. Any suggestions?